"You can run to the end of the highway and not find what you’re
looking for
And you can search to the end of highway and come back no
better than before
But to find yourself you, you've got to start right here"
So many of my posts have these deep theological bases as I
explore different topics that arise in my day to day life. Theology and
philosophy have always come easy to me. My parents taught me to think
critically and well about the issues around me. My whole life people have
always told me how impressed they are with my thoughtfulness when it comes to
these types of issues. However, while I may be gifted in articulating the
things of above, I often use it to hide behind my real issues. If I can speak
eloquently about the doctrine of God’s love or of the best way to handle issues
of poverty then I can effortlessly direct people’s attention away from my own
major flaws.
A few years ago, at the start of my junior year, I was on a
student leadership retreat with Trinity and on opening night our speaker talked
to us about fear. He encouraged us to identify our fears and then face them so
that in the upcoming year our fears would not hold us back in our ministries. I
knew instantly what I was afraid of: I was afraid of letting people know that I
was afraid. Afraid of failure. Afraid of not being perfect. I wrote this prayer
in response to those feelings and thoughts that night:
So tonight we talked about fear.
And I am afraid. Afraid of my sin. Of how people would react if they knew.
Afraid of failing. Afraid of being judged. Afraid of losing my status, my
leadership, my influence, my identity.
I am the perfect one. The one who
has the answer. Who knows it all. The mature one. The educated one. The one who
everyone thinks, “Wow! She knows her stuff – she must really love God!”
I am the one who has to be right.
Who has to be on top. The one who needs to have the answers. The one who always
seems confident. This is my identity. And admitting that I sometimes don’t know
is what I am afraid of.
My junior year was one of enlightenment. I began to understand
where my identity lay and how to change it to reflect Christ and nothing more.
But as with most things, old habits die hard. And lately I have found myself
once again confused about who I am.
I have been inside the “bubble” for practically my whole
life. Until last January that is. For those who don’t know what the bubble is
let me put it this way, I was home-schooled my whole life, spent most of time
growing up either at church or at the ministry where my parents worked, in high
school all my friends were friends from church, and then I went to a very
small, somewhat conservative, Christian college – the bubble. In the bubble I
flourished – I always knew the right thing to say, the right way to act, the
perfect way to put some else down (in a “godly” way mind you), the right way to
elevate myself without coming across as arrogant. In short, I knew how to play
the game and I played it pretty darn well!
But then, I left the bubble. And all of sudden the game was
completely changed. I tried quickly to adapt to the new game but it was so
counter-cultural to the one that I grew up playing that I gave up. I figured if
you can’t beat them – join them. And within a matter of weeks I became a
totally different person. The way I acted at work, the things that came out my
mouth were so opposite of how I was raised or how I had behaved for my whole
life.
Someone at church once said to me, “What a great ministry
you must have at your work!” and as I nodded my head I thought dismally, “If
you only knew how I acted at work.” Because
the fact was that as soon as I set foot into my work place, I left behind
everything that would show someone I was Christ follower. I even delayed adding
my co-workers on Facebook because I didn't want them to have to see my
“Christian” status’ in fear that maybe they wouldn't want to be friends with me
anymore. But the thought of disappointing everyone who thought of me as the
good little Christian girl, pushed me to continue adding thoughtful spiritual
posts.
I realize now that I am chameleon. I am a chameleon because
of my insecurities. I have always been insecure in who I am. I realize that I
have a powerful personality and because of that there are times when it makes
me unpopular. I was a very awkward child and never felt like I fit in anywhere.
Even among my best friends I always was unsure if they really liked me or not. As
well, I have always been very insecure with my looks. Struggling with my
weight, acne, and stick-straight hair since high school have always weighed
heavily on my mind. I never liked to show it and always put an ultra-confident
face on even though most of the time I wasn't.
So I am a chameleon, while in the bubble I blended in there
and while in the world, I blended in there as well. The problem is I that while
I was so busy being a chameleon in the Christian bubble something happened, I
actually began to fall in love with God. It got to the point where I didn't do
things just to impress people but because I actually wanted to serve God.
Unfortunately though, I was still a chameleon so as soon as my surrounding
changed so did I. but it was hard. I didn't want to change. I tried justifying
my change as “I don’t want to be one of those Christians who’s so stuck up that
no one wants to be around them” but really all this did was justify my sin. But
I’m sick of it.
I don’t want to be a chameleon anymore. I want to live for Christ. Not because it is
the cool thing to do among my Christian friends but because I love Him. Nor do
I want to be the girl who seems unapproachable to her co-workers because she is
so high on her horse. But I do want them to see Christ. I want them to see
Christ in how I love others and talk kindly about people. How I am there for
them and will listen to there problems and never judge them yet without
condoning their sin. I don’t want to be afraid for them to see my “spiritual”
posts and neither do I want to make such posts just for the sake of gaining
brownie points with the other bubble people.
So I am done. Done with being camouflaged to my
surroundings. I am done with being afraid. I am ready to live in the light and
be secure in who Christ made me to be and who I am in him. So I’m writing this post to the people who
know me from inside the bubble and those who know me from outside. I want those
inside to know that I am not perfect (which you may have already guessed) and I’m
sorry that I have not always been authentic with you. I am completely flawed and
broken but through Christ I am being reconciled and renewed. And for those who
I know from outside the bubble – this is who I really am. A follower of Christ.
I love him and I want my life to be a testament of his love and mercy to all. And to you I apologize that I haven't been a better example of Christ to you.
I
don’t want to be afraid anymore. This is who I am: an imperfect, broken, sinner
being sanctified by a loving savior.
My goal now is to live for Christ and Christ alone.
"I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me."
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